Grief. It is such a small word but its meaning is truly huge. When I think of what grief looks like to me, I think of times I have felt Pain, Loss, Regret, Anger, Embarrassment, Sorrow, Heartache and Vulnerability to name a few.
Having been a Detective with the Police, a Counsellor and a Hypnotherapist for 20+ years, I can say without a doubt I have seen grief in the people I have worked with and how many times, it has been life-changing. It’s almost as if they were walking along a road they expected and then suddenly and without warning, they were dragged off onto a side road that wasn’t their choice and ‘forced’ to walk it.
This side road wasn’t their desire, it wasn’t in their plan and it certainly wasn’t fair. There are also some people who at times have chosen this side road because it seemed easier at the time, was expected, were misinformed or just made a mistake. Does this resonate with you at all?
Some people hide their grief by either keeping themselves busy in an attempt to distract themselves. Some drink (and at times to excess) or take drugs (legal and illegal) because the pain of being alone with their thoughts is just too much to bear. Some even keep themselves away from others and deal with their grief alone. There are also some who wear a mask of happiness whilst what they are feeling is the exact opposite.
If this resonates with you at all, the grief is still there, underneath and unresolved isn’t it?
I’m guessing the reason you are here because you have experienced grief and it’s just become too much. Perhaps you have carried this grief for such a long time that it’s become who you are or perhaps it is very new. Well, there is an option here and I would like you to consider this for a moment. It is this:
YOU have the power within you RIGHT NOW to make a choice.
You have already made a choice to look for a solution by being here at this moment. By doing this you are already on the right track. I would encourage you to keep doing this. It’s the start of change and a change for the better.
But you cannot change the past, can you?
That’s right, you cannot change the past, however, you can change your present and your future by how you deal with and address the past. You have already made a change right now. You chose to look for an answer. That led you here. You could have chosen not to, but you didn’t.
How will Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy help me and what will it involve?
Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy is an excellent choice to address grief. You see, when we experience grief, the feeling of that can become locked inside us. That is why you have found it so difficult yourself as the place it is locked in, is deep within you. This is how powerful we are. We have the ability to do this to ourselves almost as a form of protection but in doing so, it can be a poisoned chalice.
Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy provide the key to unlock the feelings and thoughts so they can be safely addressed and then released. As a qualified counsellor, I personally believe Hypnotherapy can have the edge over counselling here.
In counselling, I deal with the conscious mind only. The client also deals with their conscious mind in the sessions and it can, without a doubt, be extremely effective. But what about repressed feelings and locked away memories and emotions? If they are locked away in our unconscious (so we are not aware of them), how will we rectify if we are only working with the conscious?
Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy can go to a much deeper level. It works with both the conscious and unconscious parts of our mind. This is why it is so effective. Your unconscious mind will have the answer to every problem you will ever face. Now when you read this, you may have a thought of doubt and perhaps think ‘I don’t have the answers or I would have resolved this by now’. If this did come to your mind, that was your conscious speaking to you and not your unconscious.
Your conscious may not have the answer, but your unconscious certainly does.
How many sessions will this take?
At this stage, this is difficult to answer. For some, the grief can be assisted in only 1-2 sessions whilst for others where the grief is perhaps deeper or more multi-layered, it can require more whilst we peel back these layers and address each one in turn. However quite often, dealing with one layer positively impacts on others.
“This was the first time I had tried hypnotherapy. James was really knowledgeable and helped me a lot. I would encourage others to give it a try without dismissing it” – Simon
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